Random Musings- Part 1- It's all about Being Content!

Random Musings- Part 1- It's all about Being Content!

There comes a point in your life when you start seeing things differently. What appeared to be great suddenly seems pathetic, while something that felt horrible suddenly looks like a great idea. There comes a point where you truly understand yourself and realize your own worth. You realize who has actually been there for you, and who just pretended to be your support. You see the ups and downs- you feel bad; yet you also feel accomplished; sad- but at complete ease with the situations, with the surprising turn of events, and most importantly, with yourself.

I have been through some really tough times recently; and while I am fully aware of the fact that people go through a lot more every single day; the “surprising turn of events” surely did change me as a person.

Life, in general, is so busy these days. We have our jobs which are no longer restricted within the 9-5 brackets. We have a lot to cope with the social pressures, what with the constant need to be active over Facebook and Whatsapp. We have increasing number of obligations to meet, and at the mere age of 22-25 we are burdened with our own expectations and constant comparisons. We have to also necessarily take out time from our schedules to catch up with random friends and guzzle down 3 liters’ of alcohol, heck otherwise to scar our social images. Oh, and to mention the feeling of constant despair while going through people’s vacation posts.

I learnt a lot in the past few months. I realized how in the midst of your chaotic beautiful world, life can hit you in the shins. How you have no other option but to get over it, and above. I realized what true friendships are; not to mention which relations are worth the effort and which are there to just decorate my life on a canvass. I realized that no matter what, family is the only constant. I found God in midst of the lost beliefs. I found new hobbies. I found how something can completely turn your life around. How one decision can make or break your years. Well, that’s a lot about me. Let’s change this to generality.

Many a times while we are completely wound up in our busy lives, we fail to realize how absolutely lucky we are. We fail to recognize the efforts of the people around us. We fail to consider our families. We start taking things for granted. We start cribbing about every small thing that goes a bit astray- everything from the traffic to the arrogant boss. We forget to ask our friends how they are doing. We forget that there is a life beyond work, and there is tranquility beyond getting high. We forget to appreciate the little things- the morning coffee that your mom makes for you, getting a seat in a crowded local. But most importantly, we forget to understand our own selves, we forget to recognize what our heart really desires and we forget how very abundantly lucky we all are for all these tiny winy things.

After the past few months, I have realized one thing with ferocity. And that is, being your own hero. You do not need somebody else to come around and help you, you can fairly do it yourself. You can keep your own self happy- you do not need anybody else if and when you decide to be happy. No toxic person can ever change that for you once you decide to be happy.

You know what? Let’s just skip all this. All I would say is, be at peace with yourself. Accept your situation, accept the circumstances. Because with complete acceptance, comes complete happiness. & what more does one need in life than to be purely happy?

1. Start looking positively at things. Whatever happens, either makes you or breaks you; and what it does to you, is completely in your hands. Take everything as it comes and just do your best out of it. There are always going to be strange turn of events completely out of your hands- why cry and crib over them? Instead, accept them and find a way through it. The greater time you spend cribbing over the changes, the deeper you will drown in your sorrows.

2. Get out of toxic relationships and away, far far away from toxic people. Instead, observe the people around you. I realized the hard way that many times the ones we think are our forevers, are the first ones to flee when you are in the pit. But we are just so caught up in our own lives and our own fantasies that we fail to recognize the real from the unreal ones. Recognize such real ones. Be with them. Your life is not supposed to be just a beautiful canvas, but also a meaningful one, right?

3. Be happy. Make genuine efforts to be happy. I strongly feel happiness doesn’t just come to you. You have to go, seek it. The one that just comes to you is usually short lived. Remember the time when you gave 10 interviews and finally got selected in your dream company? That kind of happiness. Would it be similar if someone just placed a job right in your lap? So go, seek happiness. Pursue it. Chase it. People say that the best happiness is the one that does not have to be fought for. That’s wrong. You need to fight for your happiness.

4. Be at peace with your inner self. This is the most important thing. Unless you are at peace with your own self; no person, no passion, no royalty can ever make you feel content. Understand your own self, be at peace with it. Only then will you be satisfied with life. Isn’t that exactly what we all really seek- satisfaction?

It isn’t all that hard you know. You just need to take some time, think through things and understand it in all its wholeness. What is it that you really want?

Trust me, its happiness, and nothing else. 

As they say, the grass looks greener on the other side. I beg to differ. Probably the grass on the other side isn’t green at all. Or probably the grass on the other side is greener, for it is not real.

Or probably, just maybe, you are supposed to be the beautiful autumn and not the harsh summer.

  

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(P.S. This one below, only because I really loved it!)